Tuesday, November 11, 2008

Thank You

The whole time I've been blogging, I've seen other bloggers go private or restrict their comments. I didn't think it was a big deal until last night. I received a not-so-nice comment from an anonymous poster and it hurt. Well, at first it did. Then I got angry. I never claimed to be perfect, and I struggle with my eating and exercise every day of my life. JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE. That's what makes this a challenge. I'm not putting my life out there for you to judge me. You live your life how you want, and I will decide how to lead mine. Personally, to me, a life without chocolate or wine is not a life worth living. We need to realize that this is not beautiful:




I don't ever want to look like that. I don't ever want to feel how I imagine her to feel. No thank you. So, yes, I indulge in food. I don't think one candy bar (or in fact a whole bag of candy bars once in a blue moon) is going to throw my whole weight loss journey off track. I may be stalled, but at the same time, I haven't gained back the 45+ pounds that I've lost to this point. If you think splurging once in a while is unhealthy, well, kudos to you. To me, I call that life.

So... thank you, snarky anonymous commenter. Thank you for making me angry enough to write this post. Thank you for finally making me stand up for myself. Just this morning, this girl who was MEAN to me in high school friended me on Facebook. You've got to be kidding me. Do you not think I remember all the mean things you said about me in high school? Things that you told me to my face? Things that still hurt me 15 years later? Well.... I'm not 13 anymore. So, if you want to tell me I'm fat, that I eat too much, blah blah blah... you can't hide behind the anonymous tag anymore. I feel bad for my friends who don't have a blogger tag (but you can make one!) who used to post through the anonymous tab, but I had to take it down. If you want to try to rip me down, do it to my face. Don't be a coward. Oh, and by the way? This is for you.

18 comments:

Robyn said...

Hmmm....I'm thinking that the same person who requested you requested me....and I had a similar reaction

Kristina said...

Good for you! Keep standing up for yourself because no matter what that person thinks, a small hitch in the plan does not mean that you aren't still doing so great and making a difference in your life! Who are they to throw stones? We ALL mess up and we ALL fall short of ideal. NO ONE is perfect, but you deserve all the praise and love and encouragement you have received from the ones who love you. You've EARNED IT!
Keep on fightin' the good fight. You'll win.

KK said...

I don't get the people who write mean comments.....they are not worth worrying about. You have changed your life for the better. They, on the other hand, are still stuck in high school struggling to make themselves feel better by taking good people down. No thank you. We don't play that game anymore. The rest of us have grown up and taken control of our lives.

ptg said...

Obviously, that person was someone of the not-so-smart variety.

Sorry to hear such a mean person decided to belittle you on your own blog. I've had the same thing happen to me, but unfortunately, it wasn't an "anonymous" poster, it was a supposed-to-be-friend of mine who ripped me apart and basically told me I was worthless.

At least she had the guts to put her name behind it. The person who did it to you certainly wasn't even gutsy enough to do that.

But in the end, the only person that matters is YOU. And YOU, my dear, are awesome.

Chrissie said...

What a great post. You go girl. Don't let anyone get you down. Keep up the good work...and keep being a fighter.

Erin said...

i'm sorry that such a horrible person decided to do that to you kiki. Anyone who feels the need to strike out at others must have some personal issues that they aren't able to take control of. Just think of how far you have come in your life! Simply put, you are amazing!!!

carla said...

send em to me, Sister.

Ive got yer back.

Angie Eats Peace said...

I am so angry about this. I do not know what the comment was, but I can not imagine what someone would have negative to say about your diet and exercise habits.
I appreciate that you are honest, no one is perfect, and I think it is even HEALTHY to indluge now and then.
I do not even know you IRL, but I am proud of you, and inspired by your progress.
Fuck the negativity! Good for you for challenging it into motivation!

Katschi said...

Boy, do I agree with you about never wanting to look like Posh. Seriously, yuck & ouch.

Cammy said...

Well played. :)

DaDivaStreet said...

I alway think that someone who would leave a negative anonymous comment is very unhappy/ jealous/ stupid. You have done great and I so admire you!

SeaShore said...

Hooray for the delete button! Nasty comments can be given the treatment that they deserve.

PS - I agree with you about the necessity of chocolate!

Lynn said...

I generally put negative, thoughtless comments in the same box as pop up windows and spam, which is to say useless data that occasionally wanders my way, despite best efforts.

I'm sorry you felt hurt.

c said...

What?! I'm mad for you. I can't believe someone would take the time to write a negative comment. Jeez. You've worked your butt off to get where you are. You're a great inspiration of what this journey is all about.

Marcie said...

kiki...sorry about the mean poster. and way to stick up for yourself. i was fortunate never to get mean comments but i'm sure i would've been very hurt, mad, offended, etc...just as you are. you are doing awesome on your journey...you know that and your "real" blogger friends know that, too.

as for your facebook requester....i can relate! only mine was a mean, mean, MEAN ex-boyfriend. hmmm...he must not remember that bloody nose he gave me. i instantly blocked his sorry ass.

chin up my friend. we're here for you. =)

Devon said...

People suck. You're the third knottie/nestie I've seen attacked by trolls this week. WTH is wrong with those people?! I'm sorry this happened to you. But like the others said, CHIN UP! You've accomplished so much, and you should be so proud of yourself!

RooBabs said...

Good for you, girl!! I don't understand why people waste their time sending negative comments to people. What do they get out of it? Does it really make them feel better about themselves? In the long run, I highly doubt it. So kudos to you for having the right attitude about it.

There are way too many people are support you and can encourage positively, so just ignore the negative junk!

Just_Kelly said...

%@(I& the naysayers cause they don't mean a thang!

This is one of my concerns with my blog and I'm sure, eventually, I'll run into a situation like this. Good for you for putting it in persepective. And I agree with you: a bar of candy isn't going to add on the 45 lbs you've lost! Don't deprive, improvise! Or something like that...

And I had a HS girl do the same thing to me (try and add me on Facebook). I was like "Seriously?!?! Seriously?!!?"

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